What exactly is narcissism?

What exactly is narcissism?

In contemporary discourse, the term “narcissism” frequently carries a significant, negative connotation, evoking images of extreme self-absorption and disregard for others. This pejorative interpretation has unfortunately led to a broad application of the term, often branding individuals with strong opinions or well-defined beliefs as narcissistic.

But what happens if you think you may be narcissist whenever you give strong opinions or do things that you are struggling to define as authentic or narcissistic?

This blog aims to redefine and reclaim aspects of healthy narcissism, demonstrating why a degree of boldness in finding and claiming your authentic self is not only beneficial but essential for making a meaningful impact in the world.

Understanding Narcissism

Definition and Spectrum: Narcissism, as understood by professionals, refers to an inflated sense of self-importance and a profound need for admiration. It exists on a spectrum with healthy self-regard on one end and detrimental self-obsession on the other.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Narcissism: There is a distinction between healthy narcissism, which involves a balanced sense of self-worth, and unhealthy narcissism, characterized by excessive self-centeredness.

Societal Confusion: Society’s confusion to narcissism has led to an overemphasis on using the word to explain excessive behaviours. However, when used to explain someone who is claiming their agency and authenticity, this can create confusion with traumatized individuals about using their innate capabilities.

Impact on Authenticity: The fear of being labeled narcissistic leads to a downshifting of personal agency and abandonment of the conviction necessary for life-changing outcomes and often results in missed opportunities and stifled personal growth. For example, it frequently underestimates one’s ability take leadership over one’s mental health.

Consequences for Authenticity: The fear of being perceived as narcissistic prevents us from fully asserting ourselves and advocating for our visions, thereby hindering their ability to live fully


In conclusion, while the term “narcissism” often evokes negative connotations, it is essential to recognize and reclaim the positive aspects of healthy narcissism. A balanced sense of self-worth and boldness is crucial for personal growth and living fully. By overcoming the fear of being labeled narcissistic and thus living authentically, individuals can unlock their true potential and make a meaningful impact in the world.

What can I do if I was impacted by a Narcissistic person?

What is important is to understand it. Such abuse often involves manipulation, belittlement, criticism, and gaslighting, aimed at maintaining control and power. The following outlines the key elements of what therapy may look like:

Establishing Safety: The initial step is us creating a safe and trusting therapeutic relationship between us.

Understanding: An essential component of this therapy can involve learning more about narcissistic personality disorder, its manifestations, and its effects. This knowledge helps gain insight into your experiences, understand the impact of these experiences, and learn how to move forward.

Trauma-Informed: Our therapy is guided by trauma treatment principles. We process your traumatic experiences and develop effective coping strategies.

Behavioral Therapy:  This type of therapy can aid in identifying negative thought patterns, challenging these patterns, and replacing them with healthier, more positive thoughts and behaviors.

Mindfulness-Based Approaches: Techniques such as mindfulness meditation help develop greater self-awareness, emotional regulation, and self-compassion.

Attachment-Based Approaches: Narcissistic abuse can adversely affect attachment style. Attachment-based approaches help clients understand the impact of their attachment experiences on their relationships and work towards developing healthier attachment styles.

Self-Care and Self-Compassion: Narcissistic abuse can leave survivors feeling disconnected from themselves and their emotions. Incorporating self-care and self-compassion practices helps reconnect with who you truly are, as well as build healthier self-esteem.

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